I won't pierce my daughters ears.

This is not a topic where I think there is a right or wrong. Actually most topics I never think that way.

My daughter is 4 and has her ears look like little girl ears. No holes in them. My reason. Its a little simple and little complex.

Girls are in a world where beauty and doing things to their body is the main stream. Life would be down right awful if girls couldn't dye their hair and get glitter bracelets and outfits that take the class out of what woman really stand for....Not that most of us allow our girls to do this but I know looks are important to 97% of 12 yr olds in away that just was not heard of when I was a kid.

Today 12 yr old's have make up,their phone is full of selfies,clothes are important to be tight... 
Let me set the picture for when I was 12... I wore overalls,had a tamagotchi pet clipped to my pants,had an obsession with backstreet boys and Boys meets world and my hair looked like I stuck my finger in a light socket over and over again. I had no phone to take selfie's and no reason too because boys were friends only,kissing was gross and I liked dealing with drama that only came from my parents. lol. 
Of course I agree times have changed for the worse but I could talk about that and whats wrong with America for hours.

Right now though a 2 month old with earrings is just nonsense in my eyes. Why do they need earrings that young? To make them cuter? So idiots who can never tell your child is a girl or boy can? So that they never get to make the choice themselves?
I understand toddlers. They get to ask and you get to have a cute time taking them. I get that. I am not the mom that will do it but I do get it.

Girls from a very early stage automatically think they need added beauty. Now I have my ears pierced twice. Once when I was 12 and once when I was 14 and why did I ask to have them done? Because I wanted to wear the pretty earrings. Not because I thought it would effect my looks. I was old enough to understand that. Plus getting them done later in life gave me the option to choose,for my parents to tell me my grades need to be higher before I can get them done and etc. 

 I want her to want her ears pierced for reasons that are good. Just like all you moms who really just think its adorable,your doing no harm and I am not out to get you with this post. 

Girls have enough pressure. They deal with enough things in life that have to do with looks.

I just think its not a priority. 
My daughter is gorgeous without her ears pierced. No one has thought she was a boy either. They wouldn't want to with a mom like me  by her side... =D

I have seen so many infections in babies ears because they don't understand to leave their ears alone or how to be careful. Again I am not against it I just don't think its a must.

I try not to judge,And for the most part I don't.  I just personally do not like it. I think its portraying the wrong image. I think its taking a risk when the child is really young. And I think its fun to do a girls day out when they are older. Or use it to your benefit if they have bad grades or something else going on that you can tell them no piercings till ___ gets dealt with.

I don't want my daughter growing up faster then she needs to.
 I know piercing a kids ears is not the big issue in society today or the big issue with girls thinking they need to be perfect but for now I'll keep it for the future. For when my daughter is older and understands just a little more.

?Raven?