Hip hip horray the kids are fighting said no Mother ever.

It's just 8am and my kids have been fighting the whole 45 mins they have been awake.

A normal in my home.

A normal that I am tired of. And by tired I mean I am ready to crack open a beer,put on my flip flops,grab a beach towel,go to my room and pretend I am somewhere exotic! 

This morning I made a mistake though. I made it because I was not calm. I was at my wits end.

My daughter heard the heat kick on and laid down on the heater. My son went ballistic. That made her go ballistic. I then joined in on the fun because obviously its fun if they do it so much! I told my son "to leave her alone and stop being hateful towards her for no reason. She can lay where ever she wants. Its winter its a cold morning,shes still in pjs. If she is not bothering him then don't let her bother you." He then replies with "Rich no like Weeda(version of my daughters name thanks to my Son mispronouncing it) on heat" I out of anger and clearly not thinking said "Is Rich here!?" followed by "No,he's not"..... Mhm. Go ahead think it. My son then states again how Rich does not like it and tells  "Weeda" to not sit on it. I ignore him and in that moment I realize I am ignoring him because he is right.

Instead of explaining to him that he could nicely speak to her and tell her the rules or calmly tell me what she is doing wrong. He goes right into hateful tone,raised voice and a brewing fight. He also does not stop. As I type this he is telling her that if Rich gets home she will get in trouble. So they are still fighting. I went against Rich and got a outcome I still don't want.  I could have just calmly spoke to him so that hopefully he will start behaving in the same manner. I did the opposite. I got irate as well and broke a rule that he obviously has been listening very closely too,which he should!

Of course I wish he also followed the no fighting rule. 

The no touching things that are not yours rule.

The no....

Well you get where I am coming from the one rule that went against his sister he found,remembered,told,fought about and now won't forget. Yet other rules he seems to forget.

Children!!

Now I have to go explain that Rich is right and he has rules he likes the kids to follow even when he is not here. I need to explain the right way to communicate. And I need to get stronger coffee. 

Happy Saturday!

?Raven??