Do you really know?

Todays post is brought to you because I have discovered that the majority of the people in my life...Lucky me.. do not approve of stay at home moms. I say mom instead of wife because in this case I am not a wife and probably will never be one.

Do you really know who we are as people? Are you just judging? Are you just assuming you know what its like to be us? Are you jealous and that's clouding your thoughts? I am the stay at home mom. 

I have always been fond of the working mom,a mom that can do it all and work. Awesome!!!! 
I am also jealous. An income. HOW cool is that. To be able to contribute and buy stuff with your own money. To know you worked hard! Amazing.

And if your a single mom and working then I bow down to you. You are my hero. You are your kids hero. And more people should try as hard as you have. Same with single Dads.

Main point though is I am a stay at home mom for a few reasons:

1. I have anxiety and other mental issues. I know I know you automatically think excuse. Let me tell you how my disorders effect my every day life.
I litterally freeze when my anxiety is high. I forget basic math, I forget my birthday...Its a horrible feeling.  
Now many people with anxiety work and one day I plan too... I am working hard to not medicated fix my anxiety. Mine is severe though, panic attacks,anxiety attacks,nervous break downs and anger. When I am nervous I tend to get very angry and aggressive as well. Unless you have been through it with me none of this will make sense and you will care less about it. Especially if you are against stay at home moms. So moving on.

2. Mcdonalds and a grocery store will be the only ones hiring me. I am bad with people and math so that's even iffy. I have no diploma. Thanks to my school and the whole no child left behind thing was not in effect when I went to school. I am not a drop out, I am not a F average student. My school did not give me the credits I needed and told me I ran out of time to get them in before graduation and said tough luck to me.

3.I have always wanted to be a stay at home mom. Enough said. Should be good enough for people. But its not.

4. I do contribute. GASP. I am a photographer. Yup. But again fear of people and life hold be back from getting all the clients I know I could have. But it has brought in some money. I also do blog give a ways and freebies online. Its not my life but I do sit down some days and enter a bunch. We have gotten some neat stuff.  I also know sales,store comparison and coupons.

5. I am a practical thinker. We do not have a $500 dollar game system my friends. We do not lease vehicles we can not afford. We do nothing we can not afford. We are not smokers so our money does not literally go up in smoke. We eat healthy. No credit cards. No debit cards. Straight cash talkers here. I plan ahead. I do a lot of home made gifts. Tag sailing. Etc.

6.I am a VERY protective mother. Runs in the family. My sister is an awesome do not mess with my kids mom and my mom is a if my kids need me I am there mom. I like to be in control of my kids,not other people. Simple.

7.Day care is expensive! Holy mole.

8.I like to be domestic. I am a cleaner,cook,keep things in order,appointment going and animal care taker type mom. Simple. 

 and 9.I am not good at much other. I rock at psychology and after getting my diploma hope to get my degree in it. I am pretty nifty with a camera and hope to pursue that and I am a tom boy so working in the woods is a favorite of mine but other then that..what I am pretty okay at..okay pretty good with is making this house function. I care for my other half like hes a king. My kids come first. My family is my world.

I would hope that would be enough for people. 
Lately though I have heard a few comments about being only 1 income family. its not (enter persons name) fault Rich(my other half) is the only one working...etc.

Honestly I am not the only stay at home mom. And sadly I know some people who are horrible at it. Lazy,messy,selfish...and other negative things but their circle of people are okay with that.
If I was a bad stay at home mom my mother would be right there critiquing every little thing. Actually shes pretty good at doing that now. Thats how I have learned though. My boyfriend would more then likely not be with me and my friends would not have my back. 

I would just love people to be okay with me. Be okay with who I am and what I do. And that's a lot contrary to belief. Us stay at home moms are pretty nifty. Domestically we own this.

We have flaws but nothing like what you people are thinking. For example I am pretty sure Rich dreads every time I say the words "I am trying a new recipe tonight"...

I have no idea what soap operas are on tv..actually I don't have tv. So I know you picture us moms sitting on the couch in curlers and slippers watching Days of our lives(yes I know that one because my mom is a avid watcher and my son is named after one of the characters-Do not judge).

We have our lazy days,we deserve them. Its our vacation time. Society needs to stop making us feel bad about it. I have the right to when my kids are watching a kids movie to jump online and scan for deals.
We do not get paid for what we do. We do not get days off. 

I am one of few it seems that has no idea what a date night is. I have no go to babysitters. My kids have left my side only a few times. 
If my kids are not involved then neither am I. I do not get naps or alone time when Rich gets home even if I am sick. I am not spoiled even though I do not work.

I know this was a pretty negative not funny post but I am so sick of seeing it. I think someone likes me and approves of me and then bam they are making a comment about our 1 income household. Thats not okay. I do not call you a bad mom because you buy your kids material items instead of being there with them. Ouch right? Yea I would never even think that. Yet people have no problem insulting us stay at home moms.

Our 1 income life is a very nice one. And I for one love Rich and all the hard work he does. But thats him. Hes a worker. Staying at home would drive him batty.

We all deserve a pat on the back.

*Raises her glass* To the stay at home moms that get puked on,peed on,get stuck watching Caillou,get no sick time,step in dog doo doo because we forgot to let them out,get asked where everything is and cook meals!

*Raises her glass* To the working moms who get home from a busy day to hear all about the drama from the kids day,to realize she forgot to get dinner,to the couch being chewed by the dog,to turn around and drive kids to practices,to find the hot water has been used and to a man who acts like his day has been tough. 

*Raises her glass* To the single working moms! You are amazing. Strong willed.Smart and deserve happiness.  To doing it all and more. 

*Raises her glass* (I drink a lot) to the working men so the woman can stay home! I know you hear Bill Engvall's joke over and over again when you come home and complain and your other half looks at you and goes "You wanna know what went on in this house today!!!!???" and you shut up.




“You're going to come across people in your life who will say all the right words at all the right times. But in the end, it's always their actions you should judge them by. It's actions, not words, that matter.”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Rescue  


“No one truly knows what they will do in a certain situation until they are actually in it. It's very easy to judge someone else's actions by what you assume your own would be, if you were in their shoes. But we only know what we THINK we would do, not what we WOULD do.” 


“I am aware that I am less than some people prefer me to be, but most people are unaware that I am so much more than what they see.”
― Douglas Pagels 


?Raven?