A clean slate with 365 days

I swear this is REALLY when April fools day is.
  December 31st we all start telling ourselves lies. We fool ourselves into thinking we need to change and that we will change.

I am a bit different..which I am sure you could figure that out already. 

Instead of resolutions like "I need to lose 15lbs"  I never do. I have had the same darn 15lbs now for 3 yrs. I said that I would like to eat more vegetables. Pick up some spinach instead of those darn chips!

We sit around and say we will drink less,swear less,fight less,be a better person,no more dating guys with criminal back grounds,we will not be so emotional,we will clean the toilet more....etc.    What ever it is there tends to be more to it.  Or maybe not but they are lessons that we should learn not just change.

How about figuring out what makes you so angry instead of saying "I am going to be more positive". Chances are the first moment we deal with the guy who cuts us off on the road we are going to forget about the promise and resolution we made.  The reasons we are angry need to be addressed. And that does not come from the simple every year time resolutions.

Its great to be all positive about the New Year! Fresh start. You have a slate with 365 days on it that you get to choose what to do with. Every year is a new beginning.
A good reminder is that good change will come to people who want it.

Do it right. Make resolutions that fit,make sense and are more complex. Or like me don't make anything. Just simply say this year will rock and I will make steps that I am proud of.


Then you have the "this year has sucked" and blah blah. Yea it might have. Death. Bad weather. Car trouble. Lost pet. Kids bad grades. Summer time family drama. What ever it may be lets look back at the good. Look back at what you learned. Did you learn that you can not tell your sister in law that her choice in clothing is atrocious? That might have caused that summer bbq drama! Did you learn that your 15 yr old car needed to be traded in? That might have caused the stress that morning you were 3 hrs late to work because it would not start.  We tend to think things are dreadful when really its just life. This year will be bad, good, sad, exciting, nerve wracking, game changing, chance taking type of year too.  They say and I do not know who they is I just know I have heard this.. "With good comes bad. And with bad comes good."

Sit back. Re cap your year. Think hard. Think about what the year has taught you.

This is what it taught me.

1. I am SO glad to not be in the dating scene.
2. My son has a learning disability and that's okay.
3. Patience is an amazing thing when used at the right moments.
4. People want other people to think EXACTLY like them.
5. I am no better then anyone but no one is better then who I am.
6. I can not use a hot glue gun without being burned at least once.
7. I adore my boyfriends family.
8. People will not change no matter how much you know it would be for the better.
9. Money makes things easier but not happier.
10. Vets sometimes care more for the money then the animals.
11. My opinions are important even if people do not like them. As long as I am respectful that's all that matters.
12. I am a pretty darn good cook.
13. I can bury my past.
14. My ex husband should live on Mars.
15. Lighting a candle that's far down with a piece of spaghetti does works!
16. No one is perfect and no one should be.
17. My body could be worse,need to love it no matter what.
18. I need to take a million more photos in 2014.
19. God let me live to see another year. 
20. Family and friends should never be taken for granted.

I am sure there is more deeper things I have learned. But that is the beauty of looking back.

I would like to change as well. And I will. I want to be a more patient calm quiet mother. I would like to be a more tolerable person. I would like to maybe enjoy people more (that's a really maybe). I want to do more with my life. All do time. I realize that. Little steps but they need to be steps I take not say I am going too and never do.
I need to find my ways to accomplish these things.

Everyone enjoy their new year! Get drunk. Be happy. Make memories. Set off fireworks!

2014!!!